Beehive : Man and Woman just can’t be friends

Men just want to bang women. This is not the best statement to use but each one of has their way of slicing that particular point. This now drags us to the fundamental debate: Can man and woman just be friends? May be yes, may be no. If you have friends of the opposite sex better pay attention to this. There is need to investigate the viability of truly platonic opposite-sex friendships.

There are large gender differences in how men and women experience opposite-sex friendships. First of all Men are much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. Men are also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends are attracted to them; a clearly misguided belief. In fact, men’s estimates of how attractive they are to their female friends has virtually nothing to do with how these women actually feel, and almost everything to do with how the men themselves feet.

At the same time women, too, are blind to the mindset of their opposite-sex friends; because when females are not attracted to their male friends, they assume that this lack of attraction is mutual. They think that their male friends also have no interest in them. As a result, men consistently overestimate the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently underestimate the level of attraction felt by their male friends. The two seem not to understand each other’s feelings and intentions.

Men and women simply do not connect to one another chemically the way same-sex comrades do.

In fact men and women are genetically designed to have sex and not just to be friends. If a cow befriends grass then what will it eat? If a man befriends a good looking woman then one of the following is true; the man wants to have sex with you, he has already had sex with you, you are underage or he wants to have sex with your friends.

Normal men generally won’t allow themselves to be in a sexless relationship with a decent looking girl at all. It serves zero benefit besides possibly having access to sex with a female’s associates.

Men and women want to fornicate with each other, and any non-sexual relationship is basically just a facade. It is merely a forced social construct that men and women constantly share exclusively platonic relationships.

It is common for ladies to think that men can be their friends; sometimes it works but some other times it doesn’t. If you think he is your friend, he is not thinking the same way you do. The poor chap is emotionally troubled with unquenchable secret desires for you and is worried of letting you know.     But what is a chap supposed to do? If you hide your sexual feelings you feel like a fraud; but if you are honest and open your heart you can end up being condemned.

So can the expectations and desires between men and women who are friends ever be reconciled? I think yes. Only if men realize that having sexual desire for a woman who is just your friend is fine but trying to do something about it is not. In fact if you lose your self-control, you can easily lose a life-long friend.

If you see two friends of the opposite sex just know that one of them seriously means friendship and the other is just taming and grooming his/her prey to suffice his/ her sexual desires. In this discussion I have tried my best not to confuse professional relationships with friendships.

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