How long should a couple date?

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Some women have been dating for years and they feel they should take the relationship to another level, but their boyfriends are still silent.
 
Different couples have different durations for their courtship and dating. It is usually unwise to assume that since some other couple took one year therefore yours should also take one year.  There is actually no standard duration for dating.  Couples can have independent timetables depending on their circumstances. Also partners need to have a mutual agreement and understanding about the future of their relationship.
 
However, if you are asking yourself “when is he going to propose already?!” then the deadline has probably already passed.  You might even be filling your thoughts with anxiety and frustration about the future of your relationship.  The issue of how long to wait for the ring might be a decision point for you.   The two of you own the relationship and you can discuss it; but it is illogical to force it out of him. Men love to take their time.
 
The marriage age is going up. Both men and women are taking their time to solidify their careers or postpone the decision indefinitely by living together. For women who are considering having children, that biological clock starts ticking louder and louder as women age. Men’s reasons for not proposing have a lot to do with age and lifestyle.
 
 Men always have a number of reasons for taking long to propose: We haven’t known each other long enough and this may be said even after more than two years of dating. I really want my parents to come around to liking you, I don’t want to upset my parents right now, I want to wait for the next job promotion because right now I can’t afford it, I don’t want a family so soon, somehow even though I won’t tell you but I just don’t think you are the right person for me.

Let your man get ready. You might have been together for over a year, or even five but that doesn’t mean that he is ready to marry you. Some men want to get married eventually, but only when they are ready. The concept of “ready” is complicated and often involves a feeling that he has “played the field,” had adventure, had independent fun, is financially stable, is mature and now ready to settle down. All of these are valid reasons and you shouldn’t ignore him and force him to do something that he is just not ready to do.  However, keep your eyes open because he may be wasting your time.

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