Why do women date married men?

Meddie Nsereko with his wife. Many women are attracted to men who are married

You and I must be asking the same question: Why do women choose to date married men? It would sound illogical but pretty true. Many women have decided to have secret romance with married men.

Let’s be realistic; if this man is cheating with you, availability, spending holidays and family time together, or being his first priority. So why do it?

Any woman is aware that such relationships are likely to have no future; as usual they end in a similar manner, with the man remaining married and the woman single.

May be we only seem to forget that some women don’t want to embark on a long journey, one with changing scenery and a companion who remains the same.

There is a general belief that a man who is already taken is more experienced, is able to commit and is more desirable because another woman has re-screened him.

Naturally the food on someone else’s plate always looks tastier. If someone else wants him, he must be worth wanting. Now every woman wants to find out the gold in him that made his wife pick him from the crowd.

Sneaking around to hide your relationship has its thrills. The need to be secretive, sneak around undiscovered, grabbing quick sexual encounters on the fly, can be a huge turn-on in comparison to a dinner date with a single man who calls on Wednesday night for Friday. For some people it is just more fun being naughty and bawdy.

And the sex is great because it’s new, adventurous, no strings attached.

Some women love competition. The super-competitive woman sees mate poaching as the only way she can boost her self esteem. The hotter her rival, the hotter she is, the more she feels superior to the wife in terms of having the goods that men want.

For these women, feeling superior has less to do with the man in question and how desirable he is. All she wants is to emerge more powerful than and superior to the other woman.

It is also possible that some women just want sex and don’t want or need a commitment. Finding someone who gives you exactly what you want is the answer to their supplications. Frankly speaking these women don’t need marriage, but only want sex. This is what married men also want. And imagine a double coincidence of wants.

There are married men who are financially stable and other women look at them as a solution to their financial problems.
The chap is housing and dining you; he buys you clothes and jewelry, pays you bills and pays your kids’ school fees all in exchange for a temporary sex affair. This is alright because fair exchange is no robbery.

Some women who date married men have low esteem and would like to keep it that way. They cannot hunt their own men but only take advantage of the married ones.

To them it is better to enjoy the short end of the stick than have no stick at all. They are more than willing to accept the second- class step -child status as long as they are in relationship with this married man.

Having desperately looked for their soul mates but in vain, they are now willing to take up anyone who appears.

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